Dear Divorcée, You can be free.

Dear Divorcee,

The fight for personal freedom is different for every woman. You may be seeking freedom from damaged emotions, traumatic experiences, abuse, poverty, poor health, low self-esteem, fear, people pleasing, self-doubt, or spiritual bondage. 

“I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.”

-Audre Lorde

Going through a divorce or ending a long term relationship can leave heavy emotional scars, and weights. 

Regardless of the shackle or weight that you may be bound by today, know that you can be set free and delivered. You do not have to stay bound or in bondage. You can live a happy, fulfilling, free life!

However, the first step is to identify the area where you are bound and acknowledging that you need help. You can not heal what you don’t acknowledge. 

Grab a piece of paper, notebook or journal and write: 

I ____________ need to be set free from________________. I have been carrying this weight for a long time and I’m tired. Lord, show me and direct me to resources and people that can lead me to a free life in you. 

In Jesus’ name, I pray, Amen.

Now, look for and expect information and opportunities to help you be intentional about your inner healing.

Andrea M. Stuckey, Divorce Coach

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Dear Divorcée, – Take Time to HEAL.

Dear Divorcée, 

Divorce is such a painful process. There is no way to describe the type of hurt , guilt and rejection, that plagues a divorcée. As we travel the divorce recovery  journey, oftentimes, we are looking for something or someone to ease that pain. The truth of the matter is that there is no quick fix.

If we really want to have an opportunity for a healthier and happier life, or we desire to have a healthy relationship in the future, we must give ourselves grace, time, and patience along this journey. 

Evaluate what has happened, reflect on your part, forgive yourself, forgive others and let go. This is not an easy process, but very very necessary. It’s necessary for you to have that life that you desire. Yes, there is a happy future available to you. There is so much more life to live, and love to give and receive.

Be encouraged and be graceful to yourself.

Andrea M. Stuckey

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Dear Divorcée -Choose Happiness

Dear Divorcée,
We must be conscious of all of the deposits that we allow in our lives, that will chip away at our opportunity for a happy life.
As I initially began my divorce recovery journey, I was very fragile and full of many varying emotions. One minute I was happy, the next I was sad, fearful, and overwhelmed. I had to begin to look at the root and cause of my varying emotions.
I felt happy and excited when I was well rested, was exercising on some level, reading positive and uplifting books, and eating well. I noticed that I was unhappy and overwhelmed when I did not have proper rest, or exercise and when I reveled in old songs, watched sad movies or continued to rehash my marriage with family and friends. I realized that my happiness, peace and freedom will take a conscious effort every day of my life.
Yes, everyday. I recognize the impact of all the negativity that we are open to on a daily basis. Even to this day, there are activities that I won’t engage in. There are things that I don’t watch or listen to. There are also certain individuals that I limit my time with.
We have to make conscious decisions to choose happiness. Happiness is not dictated by life’s circumstances, it is a choice and a mindset.
As you travel along your journey, pay attention and be mindful of the deposits into your life. Recognize your feelings and emotions upon exposure to certain things.
Choose happiness.
-Andrea M. Stuckey

Dear Divorcée, -Choose Happiness

Dear Divorcée,
We must be conscious of all of the deposits that we allow in our lives, that will chip away at our opportunity for a happy life.
As I initially began my divorce recovery journey, I was very fragile and full of many varying emotions. One minute I was happy, the next I was sad, fearful, and overwhelmed. I had to begin to look at the root and cause of my varying emotions. 
I felt happy and excited when I was well rested, was exercising on some level, reading positive and uplifting books, and eating well. I noticed that I was unhappy and overwhelmed when I did not have proper rest, or exercise and when I reveled in old songs, watched sad movies or continued to rehash my marriage with family and friends. I realized that my happiness, peace and freedom will take a conscious effort every day of my life.
Yes, everyday. I recognize the impact of all the negativity that we are open to on a daily basis. Even to this day, there are activities that I won’t engage in. There are things that I don’t watch or listen to. There are also certain individuals that I limit my time with.
We have to make conscious decisions to choose happiness. Happiness is not dictated by life’s circumstances, it is a choice and a mindset. 
As you travel along your journey, pay attention and be mindful of the deposits into your life. Recognize your feelings and emotions upon exposure to certain things. 
Choose happiness.
-Andrea Stuckey