Dear Divorcée,  – Self Love Can Move You Forward

Dear Divorcée,

The process of a divorce and all that it entails can strip you of your self confidence, your identity, and your self worth. Self love & self acceptance go hand in hand. Learn to love every little detail about you. Those traits are what makes you unique, special and amazing. When you love yourself, and are comfortable with who you are, you’ll exude confidence. That confidence will then take you exactly where you want to go in the next chapter of your life. 
Begin to be intentional about how you see yourself, how you feel about yourself, and how you are presenting yourself to the world. Divorce is not the end. There is so much more life to live. Your next chapter of life is yours to write.
Andrea M. Stuckey

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Dear Divorcée, Do you still believe in love?

Dear Divorcée,

Oftentimes, after the devastation of a divorce or broken relationship, we may lose faith in love relationships and the thought of being loved. It’s understandable to a degree. Depending on how far along you are in your divorce recovery journey, you may be considering the thought of love again. I have been through two devastating divorces, and I still believe in love and marriage. Be encouraged with the fact that we have an opportunity to learn and grow and REALLY take time to reflect on who we are as individuals, and what our relationship needs, wants, and desires are. If we take time to put in the work, and learn about what constitutes healthy relationships, we have a great opportunity to love again. Love never fails. There is still so much more life to live, and love still wins. It takes time, patience, growth, and hard work. Do you still believe in love?

Andrea M. Stuckey

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Dear Divorcée, 3 Way to Handle the Holidays After Divorce

The holidays are a challenging time after a divorce. With co-parenting, and all of the emotional transitions of divorce, it can be overwhelming at times.

Here’s 3 ways to make the holidays go a little bit smoother.

 1. If you co-parent, talk with ex-spouse and plan arrangements and visitations for the season. Do this as early as possible. Then sit down and explain to the children (age appropriately), what will take place. This will allow them to know what to expect. 

2. If you don’t have children, commit to an event, party or to host for the holidays. This will keep you accountable to get out and socialize during the holidays, instead of feeling down and being alone.

3. Create new traditions for your new life instead of focusing on past holiday rituals.

Remember, it will get a little easier each year.

Blessings, 

Andre M. Stuckey

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Dear Divorcée, -Walk in Your Personal Freedom

Walking in your personal freedom is necessary in order to move forward in the next chapter of your life. Today, I’m going to share 3 tips to help you begin to walk in your personal freedom.
1. Don’t be concerned with what other people think of you.

Others don’t even know the real you God designed you and he has a plan for your life. Make sure that you are mostly concerned with what you think what you desire and what that plan is that God has for your life because he does have a plan.
2. Look fear in the face and push past it. Fear is man’s greatest enemy. Fear locks your mind down. Fear stops you from dreaming. Fear keeps you from action and moving forward. Don’t allow fear to hold you back.
3. Know who you really are. Take time to revisit your true values, beliefs, and desires. Acknowledge your gifts and talents, and allow them to shine.
Going through a divorce, can strip you of your identity and so many parts of your life. 
Be encouraged, your life is not over. Begin to walk in your personal freedom.
Blessings, 

Andrea M. Stuckey

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Dear Divorcée, – Life is not over.

Life after divorce does not have to be a depressing turn of events. Though a divorce may be a negative and challenging situation, it is not the end-all be-all. I’m a proponent of looking at negatives and turning them into positives whenever possible. Divorce is worse than death. It can be a very traumatic experience without a doubt. Even with the roller coaster of emotions that you feel like you are on, I challenge you to look forward. Don’t keep looking back.
 This is a new chapter in your life and you have an opportunity to begin again, to love again, and to create the future that you desire. 

It’s not over.

Blessings,
Andrea M. Stuckey
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Dear Divorcée, – Reflection Is Vital

Dear Divorcèe,

It is impossible to move forward if you do not reflect on what has happened in your past relationship and the foundations of your life. The truth is our past experiences in our childhood and early adult life have a huge contribution to who we have become those experiences are both positive and negative, but they have shaped us none the less.
Take time to reflect and look over your early life and your marriage. Identify your recurring challenges and begin to work on yourself in those areas. Those areas may be anger, bitterness, shame, guilt, procrastination, inconsistency, financial issues, jealousy or a host of other attributes that are not positive. 
You only have one you and one life. What is your desire for the next season of your life? You will have to invest in yourself and make some changes one step at a time.
There is still so much more life to live and you want to be ready for whatever life has to offer. 
“If nothing changes, nothing changes.”
Blessings, peace, and encouragement,
Andrea M. Stuckey
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Dear Divorcée, – Keep the Faith (A poem)

Dear Divorcée, 

My Faith was a huge part of my healing during my divorce recovery process. The following is a poem that I wrote many years prior to both of my divorces. Little did I know how often I would read and recite it back to myself. 

Be encouraged.
Faith

To believe in your heart

Even though you can’t see

To believe in your mind 

What seems like can’t be.
God’s infallible Word

Stand firm, stand strong

Faith will carry you through

When times seem long.
So hold on with all power

Stand firm with your might 

Don’t give up on the battle 

But put up your best fight.
‘Cause in the end you will see

How faith brought you through 

Just stand on the Word,

God is waiting on you.
-Andrea Stuckey

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