Dear Divorcée – It wasn’t worth fighting for.

Dear Divorcée, 
Some things just aren’t worth fighting for. 
Going through the legal process during a divorce is enough to make you want to pull your hair out. Court dates, mediation, support and property issues are all part of the process. The longer that you were married, usually equates more to divide. Appointments with attorneys and clerks are not fun nor is the bill, however it is part of the process. Many couples are able to easily agree and be fair, that just wasn’t so in my case. 
For me, I had to decide what I was willing to fight for, and what I was not. Every part of the legal process costs, though there are many things you can do yourself. I fought for the obvious support mandated by my state. However, there were many items that I left behind, and many other assets that I chose not to fight for because emotionally and financially it was too draining FOR ME.
I was primarily concerned about the welfare of my children physically and emotionally. I really just wanted to move on and not be in and out of court for months, maybe even years. It just wasn’t worth it for me. It wasn’t worth fighting for. 
In that decision, I had many physical losses as It appeared. However, the peace and stability in the Lord that I found has no price tag. God provided our needs and opened doors that only God can open. God has restored more than I could have imagined. I have no regrets. 
If you haven’t had to make any major decisions in this area yet, just begin to pray and ask God for His divine guidance. Everyone’s situation and circumstances are different. Do what is right for you.
“Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours.”

-Isaiah 61:7
-Andrea Stuckey

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