As I reflect on my past marriages, I often have to remind myself of the role that I played in the termination of both of my marriages. There were many other issues in both marriages, but I had to take ownership of my part. I had to own that I was not authentic.
Oftentimes we enter into relationships as ourselves and all of the things that we love and desire, along with our dreams and ambitions. Sometimes we want to be loved so much that we think that changing who we really are to fit the mold of someone else’s needs and desires, will guarantee a life of love.
For me, I can look back and see where I lost myself in both relationships. I didn’t know that I had lost myself at that time. But looking back, I recognize that as I gave up my freedom to be me, my happiness began to decline. That issue and choice was mine and mine alone.
We should always be changing and growing along life’s journey, but our true core should remain the same. God made each of us unique, and we are enough just the way we are. We can be ourselves as long as we aren’t hurting others.
I have moved beyond that place, and I am continuously growing. I recognize that I am not perfect. However, I have embraced all of me and am happy to be free within myself. I am happy with all of my strengths and flaws. I choose to be free and remain my free self, so that God can use me as He sees fit.
Be you! People should love you for who you are. That’s in your family, friendships and all relationships. Take time to get to know yourself. Don’t change to fit a mold like I did. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson